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Wedding Traditions

United States Wedding Traditions & Ceremonies

A researched guide to 33 traditional wedding ceremonies from 11 cultural traditions in United States.

Asian Americans (Filipino American) (Christian (Catholic-influenced))

Wedding day

Lighting of the Unity Candles

Optional

The couple lights a central candle from two individual candles, representing their union.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple

Key elements

  • Three candles, joining of lights

Asian Americans (Indian American) (Hindu, Sikh, Muslim, Christian)

Wedding day

Mandap

Mandatory

A four-pillared canopy under which the main wedding ceremony takes place, symbolizing growth and well-being.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, officiant, family

Key elements

  • Four-pillared canopy, sacred space

Asian Americans (Korean American) (Christian, Buddhist, Confucianism)

Post-wedding

Paebaek Ceremony

Common

A traditional ceremony where the couple bows to their parents and elders, who then offer blessings and advice, often involving dates and chestnuts.

Timing: After wedding ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, parents, elders

Key elements

  • Bows, blessings, dates, chestnuts

Asian Americans (Various (often secular or blend of traditional beliefs))

Pre-wedding

Tea Ceremony

Mandatory

The couple serves tea to elders and family members as a sign of respect and gratitude, receiving blessings and gifts.

Timing: During wedding day or beforeWho takes part: Couple, elders, family

Key elements

  • Serving tea, blessings, gifts

Asian Americans (Vietnamese American) (Buddhist, Catholic, Ancestor Worship)

Pre-wedding

Tea Ceremony(Le Ruoc Dau)

Mandatory

The couple offers tea to elders and ancestors, receiving blessings and advice.

Timing: During wedding day or beforeWho takes part: Couple, elders, family

Key elements

  • Serving tea, blessings, gifts

Ancestor Worship

Common

Paying respects to ancestors at the family altar, seeking their blessings for the marriage.

Timing: Before or during weddingWho takes part: Couple, family

Key elements

  • Family altar, offerings, blessings

Black/African Americans (Various Christian denominations, traditional African spiritual elements)

Wedding day

Libation Ceremony

Optional

An offering to ancestors and spirits, pouring a drink onto the ground to honor those who came before and seek blessings.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Officiant, couple, guests

Key elements

  • Pouring drink, honoring ancestors, blessings

Hispanic/Latino Americans (Christian (Catholic-influenced))

Pre-wedding

Los Padrinos y Madrinas(Sponsors/Godparents)

Common

Special individuals chosen by the couple to provide guidance and often sponsor specific elements of the wedding.

Timing: Throughout wedding planning and ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, chosen individuals

Key elements

  • Guidance, sponsorship of wedding elements

Mariachis

Optional

Traditional Mexican musicians often present at various wedding events, adding a festive atmosphere.

Timing: Various wedding eventsWho takes part: Musicians, guests

Key elements

  • Traditional Mexican music

Wedding day

Church Ceremony/Catholic Mass

Mandatory

Catholic weddings typically take place in a Catholic church, emphasizing the sacredness of the sacrament.

Timing: Wedding DayWho takes part: Couple, officiant, guests

Key elements

  • Church setting, sacred space

El Lazo(Wedding Lasso)

Common

A large rosary or floral garland placed around the couple in a figure-eight shape after the vows, symbolizing their eternal union.

Timing: After vowsWho takes part: Sponsors, couple

Key elements

  • Rosary or floral garland, figure-eight shape, unity

White/European Americans (Christian (Baptist))

Wedding day

Vows and Rings

Mandatory

The couple makes solemn promises and commitments to each other.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, officiant

Key elements

  • Spoken promises, commitment

White/European Americans (Christian (Catholic))

Pre-wedding

Marriage Preparation

Mandatory

Required pre-marital counseling or programs for couples preparing for a Catholic wedding.

Timing: Months before weddingWho takes part: Couple

Key elements

  • Counseling sessions, workshops

Wedding day

Entrance Rite

Mandatory

The priest greets the couple at the altar at the beginning of the Mass.

Timing: Beginning of ceremonyWho takes part: Priest, couple

Key elements

  • Greeting, procession

Exchange of Consent (Vows)

Mandatory

The couple makes solemn promises and commitments to each other.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, officiant

Key elements

  • Spoken promises, commitment

Liturgy of the Word

Mandatory

Readings from sacred scriptures that provide guidance and inspiration for marriage.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Lectors, officiant, couple, guests

Key elements

  • Readings from Old Testament, Psalms, New Testament, Gospel

Nuptial Blessing

Mandatory

A special blessing given to the newly married couple by the priest.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Officiant, couple

Key elements

  • Special prayer, blessing

White/European Americans (Christian (General Protestant))

Wedding day

Exchange of Vows

Mandatory

The couple makes solemn promises and commitments to each other.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, officiant

Key elements

  • Spoken promises, commitment

Exchanging of Rings

Mandatory

The exchange of wedding rings symbolizes eternal love and commitment.

Timing: During ceremony, after vowsWho takes part: Couple, officiant

Key elements

  • Wedding bands, symbolism of eternity
Source: brides.com

Exchanging of Rings

Common

The exchange of wedding rings symbolizes eternal love and commitment.

Timing: TraditionalWho takes part: Mandatory

Key elements

  • High

Exchanging of Vows

Common

The couple makes solemn promises and commitments to each other.

Timing: TraditionalWho takes part: Mandatory

Key elements

  • High

Father Giving Away the Bride

Common

The father or a parent figure escorts the bride down the aisle, symbolically giving her away.

Timing: Beginning of ceremonyWho takes part: Bride, father/parent figure, groom

Key elements

  • Escorting the bride, symbolic transfer

Homily

Common

A religious address or sermon delivered by the officiant, offering guidance and blessings.

Timing: TraditionalWho takes part: Common

Key elements

  • High

Homily/Sermon

Common

A religious address or sermon delivered by the officiant, offering guidance and blessings.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Officiant, couple, guests

Key elements

  • Bible scripture, religious teachings
Source: brides.com

Presentation

Common

The giving away of the bride by her parents or parent figures to her groom before she steps on the altar.

Timing: TraditionalWho takes part: Common

Key elements

  • High

Processional

Common

The formal entrance of the wedding party into the ceremony space.

Timing: Beginning of ceremonyWho takes part: Wedding party, officiant, couple

Key elements

  • Music, walking down the aisle
Source: brides.com

Recessional

Common

The couple and wedding party exit the ceremony space after being declared married.

Timing: TraditionalWho takes part: Common

Key elements

  • High

Scriptural Readings and Prayer

Common

Readings from the Bible and prayers offered for the couple.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Lectors, officiant, couple, guests

Key elements

  • Bible verses, prayers

White Wedding Dress

Common

The traditional attire for the bride, symbolizing purity and celebration.

Timing: Wedding DayWho takes part: Bride

Key elements

  • White gown, veil

White Wedding Dress

Common

The traditional attire for the bride, symbolizing purity and celebration.

Timing: Wedding DayWho takes part: Bride

Key elements

  • White gown, veil

Unity Ceremony

Optional

A symbolic act representing the joining of two individuals or families into one.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, sometimes family members

Key elements

  • Unity candle, sand, handfasting, God\\'s Knot, washing of feet

White/European Americans (Christian (Methodist))

Wedding day

Exchange of Vows and Rings

Mandatory

The couple makes solemn promises and commitments to each other.

Timing: During ceremonyWho takes part: Couple, officiant

Key elements

  • Spoken promises, commitment

Service of Christian Marriage

Mandatory

The ceremony is a service of Christian worship.

Timing: Wedding DayWho takes part: Couple, officiant, guests

Key elements

  • Hymns, scripture, sermon

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